Originally Posted by: pervdaddy 
Ok, how do I 'uncomform' it? Currently it is already set to have the XY as its 'parent'
This is the first item I have ever bought here, is there no quality control in place that would prevent people from selling stuff which doesn't work?
Sigh...
Welcome.
To 'unconform' it, select it in the scene tab, right click, and click 'unparent' whatever the prop may be. As BrotherHades mentioned, you will have to tweak it manually after you've done that.
Now some real advice, and please take it as that; advice. I've been a member of 'Rotica for nearly 20 years. One thing I've learned that has served me very well over those decades is this: don't be a newbie with ten posts that bashes a vendor and calls their work a 'waste of money' or saying that it 'doesn't work'. It does work, as long as you use it within the parameters in which it was designed. You've morphed XY well past it's normal shape, I know because I own it. It's pulled well away from the hip, which incidentally is where the hair distortion is occurring. It's operating outside of its intended parameters.
Try this, instead. Contact the vendor directly. If you purchased their product, it came with a readme file that has their contact email. Send them a message, tell them what's going on, be polite. Most of the vendors here are happy to support their products and help you find solutions or workarounds to any issues you may have with it. But I know from personal experience from my real world job, if someone comes at me with a problem and starts out by saying the product is crap and that they've been ripped off, my willingness to help them drops precipitously. I've even told a few to fuck off and get out, to their faces. Not common, but it has happened. And all because they came at me like an asshole.
If, however, they come at me by presenting the problem and asking what they can do to solve it while being polite, I'll bend over backwards to help them. Granted, my day-to-day has nothing to do with CGI or 3D, but it has everything to do with human interaction. Make sure your side of that interaction isn't venomous without cause and you'll get pretty far.
tl,dr? Try a softer approach to getting help with an issue.